First up, just like the last time she was called out for lying – gaslighting, and then changing her narrative, she will do the same thing here, now again.
For some reason, don’t ask me why and I don’t really care – I’m just passing some time to be honest – she is attempting to push the false narrative that she and I were separated when she was having her affair with her new guy.
Then she will gaslight about what an ‘affair’ is in an attempt to avoid the responsibility of her actions. This is normal NPD behavior. It is my guess that someone that is important to her ‘survival’ is calling her out on this issue. (she has been called out a lot on her false narratives it seems. NPD’s can never maintain the mask, because they can’t keep all the lies hidden, and that is when their world falls apart. It always falls apart, see my posts about knowing this would happen again, it’s a pattern she has, and it did.)
“Legally Seperated”
(See links and notes below)
Back in 2015 we began living in separate houses because I was tired of living in cat-shit and clutter (this is well documented). Not to mention her hoarding, etc. As explained in other places here about the Boyd thing; she decided to divorce me because she had manipulated Suzanne Chappell to take my name off of everything, so she didn’t need me to take care of her (same situation she is in now, as she admits in text messages (here as well) she has to have someone care for her – that is normal for a narcissist). As is normal with a NPD she has to be in control of things; see documented pages here about her control of things in Boyd, and her attempt to get the former owner of this property to add her name to the property records (and when that didn’t work she stopped helping her (she was manipulating her from the start)).
In any case she said she wanted a divorce, and I offered to do the paperwork but she said NO she wanted a real lawyer; which her and Suzanne were hiring. At that point we were legally separated and publicly claimed we were separated. Read elsewhere (the Boyd Property) why that didn’t last long (Suzanne saw through the manipulation and was going to evict her so she hoovered me back (again see Boyd property)
We were legally separated as of July 11th 2023; at all times before that we were NOT separated – living in separate houses is not a legal separation under Texas law, and as shown in the text messages here (posted months ago) we were not telling others we were separated.
These are the text messages from August. She still needed me to care for her, so we were still married. This was while she was grooming Dana Fletcher, and a month or two later he divorced his wife (or she moved out). As already noted in other postings here, that is when the first changes started with Tara, I’ve been with her long enough to know when she starts another affair – Also remember, affairs (biblically defined) start in the mind long before the dick goes in – another gaslighting point she will attempt (I’m sure).
Over the next 4 months she found reasons and excuses to NOT have our “date nights” – also see text messages, already posted – another big clue. Note also, and as her ex-friends have stated, our date nights were watching movies, playing pool, sitting on the porch talking and not always sex – despite her claims that she had to “…go home and suck his dick to make him happy.” (she refused oral sex, or to allow me to attempt to please her for years; as already documented here).
In December she was confident that she had a new place with him, so she gave me an ultimatum about evicting my brother (a no-lose bet for her as she had him on the hook) – and I refused – already documented. So she (see video) began emotionally withholding.
The first time she told anyone we were legally separated was, I found out later, at a Funeral several months later – she failed to tell me this however as her place with the new guy obviously wasn’t that secure.
So that is the real story, I have no clue why it is so important to her to run with this false narrative except that someone over her way is getting wise to her false narratives, gaslighting and lies. Of course, once one of her people start figuring her out, like so many others in the past, she will claim they abused her somehow and unfriend them / block them, etc. Once her lies get established then her lies about all the abuse fall apart too.
The big difference between this time and so many other times in the past is, she will NOT hoover me again, she is on her own when she fails – and she always fails – so good luck with that.
NOTES:
Texas does not have legal separation
Texas Law Help.
From time to time, our attorneys get calls from couples who want to “legally separate” but not divorce. They usually have a valid reason for wanting this type of dissolution of their marriage, but in Texas, this is not an option. The Lone Star state does not recognize legal separation. Here, you are either divorced or you are married – at least in the eyes of the law.
Family Law Group