Emotional Withdrawal (emotional abuse)

What many don’t realize is that narcissists deliberately withhold attention and affection sporadically throughout the relationship to maintain the victim’s addiction to them. We know that intermittent reinforcement of positive behaviors throughout the abuse cycle is a tactic that allows dopamine to flow more readily in the brain, creating reward circuits in the brain associated with the abuser, and ultimately strengthening the addictive “trauma bond” between abuser and victim (Carnell, 2012; Fisher, 2016). This is a bond created in a relationship with a power imbalance, periods of arousal and intensity, and good/bad treatment (Carnes, 2010). (https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2019/07/the-narcissist-withholds-attention-as-a-control-tactic-3-ways-to-reclaim-your-power#2)

In this Video Tara McFadden admits to using the “Withholding” of sex, affection, and attention as a form of Emotional Abuse.

NOTE: In text messages with her sister, she admits to doing this on direction of her doctor, who she also admits she stared seeing in February, 2 months after she started this.

This is where she claims she only learned about “Narcissism” in Feb 2023, but that is a bold face lie:

This is where she admits to posting about “narcissistic abuse” for “quite some time … years and years”

And this is where she is talking to Suzanne Chappell in 2014 (I thought it was 2015) about me being a narcissist. They are Pathological Liars.

Narcissists are able to fool their Doctors and Therapists; only very specially trained doctors can even diagnose them in therapy (without hidden video like you will see on this site) because they trick their doctors into validating their victim status (IE: make them a better narcissist)

Will Therapy with a Narcissist Help? Why it’s a Bad Idea (kimsaeed.com)

6 Reasons It’s Easy to Be Fooled by a Narcissist | Psychology Today

1. There are very few psychotherapy training institutes that focus on teaching the diagnosis and treatment of NPD. Most psychotherapy training programs are designed to turn out general practitioners, not specialists.
2. This is a difficult, expensive, and time-consuming specialty to learn properly. At least three years of advanced training are necessary to become competent in this area.
   In summary: There are not enough psychotherapists available who are properly trained in the diagnosis and treatment of narcissistic personality disorder. 

10 Stages in the Treatment of Narcissistic Disorders | Psychology Today

When the psychopath narcissist starts withholding sex from their partners, they have most likely already groomed and secured their new source of supply and have already made up their minds that they are done with you. From now on, they will continue withholding sex and devaluing your worth; there is no going back now. https://psychopathexposure.com/narcissist-withholding-sex-why-the-narcissist-stops-having-sex-with-you/

The most Toxic form of Narcissistic Emotional Abuse: Withholding

Traditionally, many think of withholding as denying sex or affection. This is one form of it, and a spouse or partner who refuses to show affection without offering an explanation is certainly withholding a valuable and needed aspect of a healthy union. (However, refraining from sex or affection because you do not feel comfortable with the act or do not trust the other person is actually a healthy form of boundary-setting, and it should not be confused with withholding, which is never done for a healthy reason).

But even more common and perhaps more damaging than refusing to engage in affection is when an individual tries to control or domineer over another person by refusing to authentically communicate.

To a Narcissist like Tara McFadden, you are not a person you are an object to be used to her advantages; whatever those may be.