So her sister tells me she has some weird thing on her page about how “she would have done anything for me” – more lies from a narcissist. Look I’m surprised.
- Ah, like not cutting me off from sex, like I told you not to do in 2015?
- Ah, like not spending the night at Riley’s house when I told you I didn’t want you to do that?
- Ah, like not having 27 affairs on me?
- Ah, like working to rebuild my trust in you?
- Ah,, like not posing nude for Richard Forsythe?
- Ah, like not hanging out with certain toxic people online and in real life?
- Ah, like helping me around here like you promised you would do (I fell asleep, had to eat, I just took my meds, “I shouldn’t have to clean his litterboxes,” I have to work tomorrow, I hurt myself working yesterday I need a day off, etc…)?
- Ah, like not telling your friends I abused you all the time?
- Ah, like not triggering me in front of guests and claiming I’m always like that.
- Ah, like not creating this toxic environment and then crying about it (typical narcissist thing)
- Ah, like keeping our date night once a week instead of always some excuse you couldn’t because you had to work?
- Ah, like not using excuses to manipulate me with Emotional Withholding?
- Ah, like not flying off the handle at the smallest criticism?
- Ah, like not blaming my brother for putting a lump of cat fur in your water (that video shows he didn’t do)?
- Ah, like not telling me you couldn’t actively engage in sex because of your heart condition?
- Ah, like not telling people “he doesn’t like to go out” while telling me “Its girls night only” – “They don’t want you to go” etc.
- Ah, like not telling people that I stay drunk all the time and I’m dangerous
- Ah, like not telling people that I am going to kill you (guilt reflection of your own plans to kill me)
- Ah, like – keep adding things here until I die of old age –
Talk about triggering me in front of guests, and I remember a story. You had gone to get us Subway, and while you were out guests show up. When you walked in you said you didn’t want to be rude so you offered them 1/2 of my sandwich (not your own) and then claimed I was an asshole like that all the time. You’ve never really cared that much about me or my wants or needs. You have always offered others what is not really your right to give them.
You did this same thing here in front of guests – they didn’t know you were triggering me of course, they didn’t see a problem at all – just like the headphone thing, most don’t understand why that pisses me off, some understand though that it does and you have to respect that, if you understand it or not.
You are not growing; you are not healing. This is a typical Narcissistic tactic that is well known they do in order to justify manipulating your victim. You didn’t put a boundary in place about sex, you emotionally withheld, and you admit it on video. Narcissist love therapy if they can manipulate the therapist into thinking they are the victim, of course like all your other previous Dr’s the moment they see through you then you stop going to them; and that has been a lot of Dr’s.
You admit on video that you think I stopped trying so you stopped trying, despite hundreds of text messages I sent you trying to support you, build you up, show you I cared. It is all just lies. I just refused to engage in your toxic behavior anymore and so my “supply” was not there for you.
You tried to leave me with Jose and that affair (look, again, kicked to the curb after he got his piece of tail – didn’t see that coming again)
Where you fucked up is sending me to the shrink.
I’m not an unaware idiot now, I know what you are. I’ve paid a LOT of money for this program that is simply a course on understanding a narcissist.
You opening your legs for someone else, go ahead, I’m numb to that now, you’ve done it too often.. That is the only way a narcissist understands a relationship, sexual manipulation and after years of that it just don’t bother me anymore. In fact I would have been surprised if you didn’t do it. You bragged, when I ‘made you mad’ a couple of months ago that you should have “got you some dick” last time we were separated. Perfect example of how shallow you are, and, your view of sex and willingness to use it to manipulate others. I told you in 1984 I was tired of shallow sex, that is for children; but its your only real tool. The day I announced our divorce I had calls and turned them down (seems you bragging about my size has a few lined up).
Sad that ‘that’ was about the only hold you had on me in the end, and by making me go that long without it, you lost your control on me – so I guess I need to actually say Thank you.
In any case your statement is false, crying victimhood.
You decided to destroy this marriage because I wouldn’t engage you in toxic behavior anymore. When you started your toxic bullshit, I would just sit there until you left not saying a word. Scotty even thought it was funny how frustrated you looked that I would not engage you anymore; and I used to, and had enough control to ignore you – but that was my mistake in the past, engaging you in it.
You had more than a chance to work on it to make it better but that is not what you wanted at all. A narc can’t exist in a happy environment, but they crave one, but because of their nature they can’t stay in one – it is all about drama, conflict,
Tell yourself whatever you want or need on it.
I told you not to do these things.
You did them.
You violated me, my trust, my love for you, etc. After breaking the trauma bond with you, I now understand that there was only one person who was even capable of love in this relationship and my love was all one sided, never reciprocated; but I deluded myself to think that it was – my bad.
Now Its my turn to tighten the screws. One thing you’ve done is taught me how much you do NOT love me – in fact you took some glee in saying it to me a few times here near the end – thanks again for that.
I heard you – message received, thought locked in. That will make this easier if I keep that in mind.
