So I get a random blank return (throw away) email that lists the things a narcissist does when their victim goes no contact
1. Launching Smear Campaigns: “….they will make up all kinds of stories about you….”
NOTE: Text messages before the breakup, is not making up some story. Video is not making up some story. Text messages of her lying to her own sister such as: Talking to Suzanne in 2015 about me being a narcissist, cutting me off from sex in december, starting counseling in feburary and claiming that is when she learned of narcissism, while admitting on video on the front porch and in text to her sister she uses a fake facebook account to post about my narcissistic abuse, for years .. – is another in a long and complicated set of lies told by the narcissist that she has been outed on.
There is something else this is called – Exposing the Narcissist, they hate it, they will go crazy about it make up all sorts of stories to try to fill in the gaps and cause you doubt reality
2. Contact you about random small things – I wonder where some of these messages come from, if not her then her enablers on her behalf.
3. Fake apology – I think that is what she was trying to do through her sister /shrug – told her in the dear jane letter Jul 3rd that we are done, see next:
4. Declaring that it was he/she that ended the relationship – Yeap, totally guilty. After cutting me off from sex for 6 months and then ignoring me about spending the weekend over there (making it look like affair #28) I divorced your ass, see dear Jane letter – Told you in 2015 I wouldn’t accept that shit anymore.
5. Stalking, I guess she is still doing this; at one point her sister was watching her page but even she blocked her at this point. /shrug
6. Guilt Trips – well she has been doing that online for at least 8 years, and her followers are too stupid to figure it out, that won’t change.
How to expose a Narcissist – stick to logic and facts and do not let them sidetrack you.
1. Denial: The narcissist may deny the truth, even if it’s blatant. They will draw upon alternative theories, no matter how far-fetched or impossible they seem. They may insist that other people are crazy or dumb for not seeing the situation differently.
2. Avoidance: In some cases, the narcissist will completely ignore or avoid exposure. They will literally pretend as if nothing has changed. This behavior tends to make other people feel uncomfortable, and so they might also ignore the narcissist’s behavior, which enables this avoidance.
3. Downplaying their feelings: Sometimes, the narcissist will pretend as if the exposure doesn’t bother them. This can sound like, I didn’t really care about this situation that much, anyway. It can also sound like, No, I’m not mad at all. I am just a bit surprised.
They will then start playing it off as: I have dirt on you but I’m a bigger person and won’t expose you (knowing they have nothing but their story and innuendo – see multiple claims to her sister)
SO…….. Little enabler. There is a lot of video here, and text messages too – if you are able to ignore all those facts and keep drinking that Kool-Aid, then there is not much help for you at all is there…
What Happens When a Narcissist Is Exposed? (thenarcissisticlife.com)
What Happens When You Expose a Narcissist to Others? – Unfilteredd
10 Things to Expect When a Narcissist Knows You Are Onto Them – Kim Saeed